Post Op Marital Issues

I had my surgery 4/29/03 (-50lbs. so far), have been married 18 years and just got a heck of a shock. With all the emotional issues that come along with the surgery itself, I just discovered my husband has been having a sort of "mini-affair" for the last 6 months!! They both say it was more of a very intense "friendship" that never quite got physical. ANYWAY...they spent unbelievable amounts of time talking on the phone (including 9 times the day I had my surgery). He did not want me to have the surgery (says he was worried about me), and now that I have seen her I am really bummed. She is bigger than I ever was. Now he says he wants his family and is ever so sorry. Now how the hell do I deal with this?

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