My dad is pretty upset, surgery 12-10-02, how can i ease his concern?

I am 25 and have always been daddy's little girl. I have been so close to him always, even when he was mad at anyone else, he was always nice to me. Well, several months ago I mentioned the surgery to him and he began putting the surgery down and saying things like, "karen, you only need to lose about 40 lbs, its dangerous, they havnt been doing it that long, etc, etc...." So during my approval journey I knew how he felt so I never mentioned it again. Well, now were down to the nitty gritty and my surgery is less than 2 weeks away. My mom told him that I was going through with it and she says he said that he wished I wouldn't go through with it and so forth. Well, he hasn't said anything to me about it, so last night I went over to their house and was sitting at the bar area talking with my mom and chad ( my boyfriend) and my dad was cooking ribs on the porch and was going in and out and I casually said to him "Dad, are you gonna be at the hospital the day of my surgery?" and about that time the phone rang and the dogs were barking and I clearly heard him say....Why are you having this surgerey? as he was walking away and my mom cushioned the blow and said he asked what date your surgery was, and I said december 10th....I dont know what to tell him to make him understand this is what I want and i love him and respect his opinion but Im not his little girl anymore and this is my body. What should I do? How should I handle this situation. My mom says he's concerned about the whole death issue. I love him dearly and I hate this situation that Im in with him and I just dont know how to handle it.....Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I would like to have a heart to heart, but really dont know where to start.

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