Please tell in detail the negative ways some people have reacted to your weight loss...

Hi! I am 14.5 weeks out and have lost about 60lbs. I fully expected that there would be some support for my efforts and some mixed or hostile responses,and I was right. There are coworkers who tell their buddies in other departments to come take a look, but who never say anything to me...people who used to encourage me to follow their methods of staying slim (in front of a crowded office), people who make sure to pipe up and explain "She had SURGERY!" if a 3rd person notices the change....people who ask me hopefully if my large breasts are shrinking, too, or (ALSO HOPEFULLY)if I have vomiting and so on, as others they've heard about have...people who tell me about the alleged sex-deprived woman who had the surgery and went so sex-crazed she became wildly promiscuous "humped a table" in the office to demonstrate her technique and was fired...on and on. The former buddy who herself had VBG many years ago and struggles repeatedly with 30-40 lbs, who was so supportive pre-op, now has cooled off considerably--doesn't want to go to support groups with me, etc.. The worst, outside of my family, is the woman who painted herself as my (extremely saccharin-sweet) biggest supporter PRE-weight loss, who was shocked (but pretended to be happy for me, natch) when I announced my WLS, and now avoids me completely, and seems VERY uncomfortable when we happen to meet....There's more, but I want to hear YOUR stories, so I'll see I'm not alone. I'm feeling very alone right now; true to form my family is also fading away fast, as they always did when I managed to lose the weight in the past. How did you cope with the betrayals and so-called friends turning on you, etc.? P.S. If you've lost enough weight to experience this, congratulations are in order, aren't they? Good for you, and me, and to hell with them.---Jesse

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