How can I get my husband to be serious about this??

I love my husband very much, but he's what they call a feeder. Not only that, he thinks he's a comedian and wants to impress everyone with his sense of humor. His sense of humor is one thing that attracted me to him and most of the time he's really cute, but sometimes he gets carried away and doesn't take well to criticism. Well, this time he's gone too far and I don't know how to deal with it. Since I started looking into WLS he's been very supportive, but makes jokes that he thinks are funny, but I find offensive. For example, the other night we were cooking dinner together and he wanted to fry chicken. I NEVER fry chicken and said fine since I wouldn't be able to eat such fatty foods after the surgery anyway. He went on to say if we had a deep fat fryer we could make french fries, fried zuchinni, donuts, and on and on. He thought he was being funny. I said that we shouldn't have a fryer because I wouldn't be able to eat any of those things after surgery anyway and shouldn't even eat them now. He keeps saying "you can eat that, you're going to have surgery anyway" and today, the motherlode... we're soon going together to a support group meeting and he said "we should take a big old 30piece bucket of KFC, wouldn't that be funny?" and I told him I didn't think it was funny at all. I said that I didn't appreciate the joke & I knew the women there certainly wouldn't appreciate it either. I said that I really needed his serious support in this and that I was asking him to put aside his jokes for this one evening for my sake. In very ugly terms he told me to lighten up and that he has been supporting me during our whole marraige in all my weight loss attempts and that I could just go by myself because he was sick of it. I know he'll come with me, but I want him to see how serious this is to me. Anyone deal with a spouse who just didn't take this WLS seriously? What can I say to him that I haven't already said? Any advice would be helpful.

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