Anyone experiencing familial alienation after weight loss?

Recently traveled with my extended family (not always a good idea in the best of circumstances, I know). They were nasty, rude and petty and barely commented on an 80lb. weight loss over the last six months. Two sisters that obviously used to only feign love and support from afar became downright intolerant, mean and disrespectful in person. We haven't spoken since the trip (3 weeks ago) and it seems they are adding fuel to each others fire by actually fabricating information to keep their comraderie stoked (now that they are newly united in their quest to put me down - my mother is telling me some of the things they have said in a misguided attempt to help). By the way, these are two women who spent the last 38 years bad-mouthing each other behind their own backs to me, I know I should not mourn the loss of this "type" of person, but I thought they loved me unconditionally, I thought we all did, and I thought that despite all their poor choices and actions over the years they were innately good people. I am so heartbroken I can barely function. I have been hurt and dissillusioned and now feel so alone. (I do have an incredible husband and three great kids, I know I am blessed) but they were the back bone of a now known dissapointingly unstable "female" support system I thought I had, and now I have to admit who they really are, and it just hurts so bad. I don't even know what the question is anymore, I guess I want to know who has had similar experiences, and how they deal with the dissapointment. I have been going through the motions of day to day life with my family, but my heart is heavy, there's a constant lump in my throat and I need help dealing. Thanks.

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