When and how do you learn to become comfortable with your body?

I am still pre-op, but my surgery should be sometime in the next few months. I stand 5'8" tall and weigh about 310 pounds. I was hoping that I wouldn't have too much of a problem with sagging extra skin because of my age (23), but I posted a question about that recently, and I found out that I would most likely have a big problem with it. I have been obese for a very long time and I do have a LOT of stretch marks, so those are bad signs. Anyway, I have come to grips with the fact that I may have to have post-op cosmetic surgery such as lipo, tt, and breast lift. My problem is that I am afraid that I will never be comfortable with my body. I hate my body now and won't wear shorts or a bathing suit under any circumstances, and I was hopeful that the surgery would restore my self esteem. However, if I have plastic surgery, I will be embarrassed to wear those types of clothes because of the scarring. If I don't have the surgery, I will be embarrassed because of the excess skin. Has anyone been through this and have an insight to offer? This is really bothering me.

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