Is anyone else out there having trouble with approval from your spouse?

We have been married for 20 years, I have had 2 c-sections & my gall bladder out with absolutely no problems, I am not scared of surgery in the least. I am 120 lbs overweight right now and looking at a family history of heart disease, diabities and many forms of cancer (some completely undetected because of weight). I have the ok to have this surgery and have a date schedule for 8/7/02. I know a long way off! My husband (who is thin and always will be) does not want me to have this surgery. He wants me to ''just eat the way they tell you to after'' and see what happens. I've tried to explain to him that it's much easier to eat that way after because you do not have the same appetite. He has admitted he knows I have tried all kinds of weight loss methods and worked hard at it. He also acknowledges the fact that I can pretty easily loose 30 lbs but then it stops. Why does he want me to try this way again? Why is he so against it? Is he thinking of himself instead of me? Any insite would be grand. I know in the long run he will be there to support me. I just wish I could help him to understand how much this means to me and this is not going to be just another ''failed'' attempt. Has anyone else out there had the same scenario? Thanks......

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