How can I deal with dating when men shun me even if Im only 25 lbs too heavy?

Im in my late 20s and Ive always been a very shy person when it comes to men. As a result, most of the relationships I have had were the result of personals ads and internet dating. I had thought up until now that the reason I had yet to find someone good was because I was so heavy (most of the men who "accepted" me as I was had severe flaws like lying, etc.). Now that Ive lost a lot of weight (I currently weigh 190 lbs at 5'7") I had hoped to have more opportunities open up. Unfortunately I still get the same treatment I was receiving when I weighed 315 lbs even when I lie and say I weigh 175 lbs!!! I live in Southern California where you have to be thin and blonde to get the guys. Anyway, this repeated rejection is starting to turn me very bitter. I mean judging from some of the pictures Ive seen a lot of these guys are nothing to look at. Ive thought about getting a picture of myself scanned because Im considered to be fairly attractive but then I wonder whether these men are worth the effort if they wont give a woman a chance who is only 25 or so lbs overweight. Any suggestions from women in similar situations? Im hoping to hear from someone who will tell me that not ALL California men are jerks, just most of them.

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