How does one reassure their spouse or significant other that everything will be okay?

My wonderful partner Bill, is extremely supportive of my decision to have my revision to my surgery. He's such a marvelous man that very much want to spend the rest of my life with ... and enjoy everything I can with him. Thus, some of my desire to get the balance of my weight off. To give me much more quality time with him. He admitted to me tonite, that he's quite scared of losing me in surgery. He's never had a wife or partner go thru major surgery and has never himself been in a hospital except for the birth of his daughters. His best friend just died suddenly a couple weeks ago, at age 42 (my age), of a heart attack, totally unrelated to weight, it was a genetic thing. I think that is part of what fuels his fear since his friend and I were only a couple weeks apart in age. But I understand too that he's concerned that any surgery is risky, and his being a Psychologist, he tends to mull things over and analyze things. How do I help calm his fears, and offer assurances to him? I trust my surgeon completely, He did my original surgery, and I've had zero complications or health problems from my surgery. But ... I too have that "what if the unexpected happens" fear. Thanks for any advice :)

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