How do you handle jealousy?

I deliberately did not tell anyone I was having this surgery prior to having it because I did not want to the hear the "horror stories." Now that I've lost the weight and everyone knows, my aunt is constantly calling my mother telling her about the people she know who ended up dying after having the surgery. She's said she knows 10 people. I told my mother I'm in a webgroup with hundreds of people who have had the surgery and I don't know about many of them dying off. Yes, it happens, but to me her personally knowing 10 people seems unbelievable. She is scaring my mother and I want to call her and tell her to shut up, but my mother raised me to respect my elders and I feel I can't get involved with the two sisters. It just seems like everytime she calls its a new kind of horror story. She also talks about all the people she knew that regained their weight and are bigger then ever. She is a larger woman herself, I'm wondering if it could just be jealousy. Why can't people who claim they love you, just be happy for you?

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