How do you cope w/ no one noticing your weight loss?

I would like to hear some experiences/thoughts from those who, even after losing 70 or 80 pounds, were still very fat, and no one noticed your progress. I have lost 70 pounds since March (have not had surgery at this point) which is an almost unbelievable accomplishment for me. I still weigh 315, and no one who does not KNOW I am trying to lose weight has noticed. My co-workers who know I'm trying are very supportive and complimentary, "Oh, I can really tell a difference", they say, but people who don't know, including friends I don't see often, have absolutely nothing to say. I just got back from a New Year's Day lunch that included two women I haven't seen since April, and they didn't say a thing, or even blink twice. I know all they do is glance at my chins and my stomach and think, "Well there's Kim, still enormous." And I don't blame them; I still weigh over three hundred pounds. When I sit on a restaurant chair, you can no longer see the chair. But what has me crying my eyes out is how extraordinarily hard I've worked this year for this. As you all know, with surgery or with out, when you are trying to lose weight, you have to constantly think and plan and count and counsel yourself, etc, etc and it's all consuming. For the last 10 months of 2002, trying to lose weight has been with me every waking moment. So when, on the first day of 2003, someone looks at me blankly and says "What's new with you?" it makes me come home and cry. At this rate, given how weight loss slows over time, next Christmas I can expect to weigh about 250. Then people will begin asking, "You've lost weight, haven't you?" and I will be saying, "DO YA FREAKIN' THINK SO!?" and probably stab them with a fork. I would be interested to hear any thoughts you may have that you think would be helpful.

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