How do you deal w/fear of success?

I know that one of the reasons *I* am MO is that I am terrified to be thin. But most of what I see posted on this site is 'Woo-Hoo!80 pounds in 5 months!' or whatever. People say they've been fat ALL their lives, but these same people don't say - "I'm so frightened of this change and what it will bring, I'm eating extra calories; I'm sabotaging myself." How do you avoid this? Is it the act of having WLS itself? (I have not had WLS.) I notice that a very, very high percentage of folks are married or have kids or both. So maybe you weren't using fat to avoid intimacy/committment, and so your fear of change is less. Or is this just an issue no one talks about? I know everyone stays the same INSIDE; but is everyone at peace with the total, radical change of their being-in-the-world? Even the most positive change can be very scary for the average human.I have a good psychotherapist, but maybe you know something to tell me that she doesn't. Thanks.

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