I REALLY need everyone's advice !!!!!!

I'm not sure how to word this, and since I want to get in everything I want to say, I warn you...this may be long! But I really need some input so if you could bare with me, I'd appreciate it. I have been coming regularly (via mostly lurking) to this site for over a year now and researching WLS for about 1.5 years now. Unlike most testimonies I have read of other MO people, (here, e-groups, articles..etc.) I have not been overweight all of my life. I enjoyed a slender figure even after my first two children were born. It's the third pregnancy that started it all! LOL Anyway, I steadily climbed in weight because of compulsive overeating due to a marriage from hell. If I don't do that, I don't gain weight. I know that this is similar to other's lives. BUT, honestly, I have no problems maintaining otherwise and this seems to be where we part ways, so to speak. Right now, I am 150lbs. overweight and I have stayed at this weight for 2 years. No loss, no gain. Let me back up. In 1997 I went on Phen-Fen for three months and lost 65 lbs. I started at 280 on May 1, and ended at 215 sometime in August. I kept it off for a year. I did have a small regain due to the fact that I had started a new home-based business and was now sitting in front of a computer screen instead of running around like I normally did. So, when I saw it creeping up, I went and got Phentermine and lost what I gained and a few more pounds. I had had a prior knee surgery and was starting to feel really bad pains in my knee again and that limited my motion even more and I gained back what I had lost on just the phentermine. If it hadn't been for that, I really believe I wouldn't have gained it back. I had a second knee surgery and was getting over it well and had started losing again when I got pregnant with my youngest, who is now 2. I gained 50 lbs. with her and have not lost ANY of it. This is why I am 150 lbs. overweight instead of just 100 over. I have long since given up on "dieting" and just eat like a "normal" (has never been overweight) person. I have read about people who weigh much less than I do going on binges that lead them to eating entire loaves of bread or 2 or 3 take-outs from different drive thrus. I have NEVER been able to eat that much at one sitting and the amount I AM able to eat is about the same (sometimes less) than that of my MIL and she is a 150 lb. person who has never had a weight problem. A binge to me is eating 3 donuts at one time! After that, I'm sick. IF I were to listen to my body and stop when I feel satisfied, and not feel like I have to eat the entire portion on my plate, I'd only eat maybe 1.5 cups of food, which I understand some long term post-ops eat now! So, I don't diet, I don't watch what I eat...I eat late at night (sometimes) and sit a lot becuase I am always on the computer doing research for school, reading...whatever...but I have not gained weight in 2 years. Obviously, I know why I haven't lost. I did go on a trip to see my mom a couple months back and while I was with her, I didn't snack as much and didn't eat at night like I do at home and I lost a few pounds. I don't know why I can't seem to do that here. I need to bounce this off you guys so someone can help me figure out why I'm not gaining when lots of other people in my shoes would already be another 100 lbs. heavier. Of course, I'm very happy about this, but am I so different from everyone else or is there someone who has had this happen to them too? Am I just looking at my circumstances all wrong and, in reality, I'm just another "yo-yo" dieter? OR, do I have something else wrong with me that WLS won't fix? I mean, the doctor is going to see my past medical records and know that I have been at this weight for a while now. If you have read this far, thank you. I believe that I do qualify for surgery based on my weight and comorbidities, and KNOW that once I get the weight off (which was always hard to do) that I will be like I am now and maintain what I have, if I don't revert to compulsive overeating. I shouldn't have any problems with that since I am re-married and do not need that comfort anymore, which is why I believe that I haven't gained weight. BUT, will the doctor see it that way? I understand that you cannot have surgery IF there is a metabolic reason for your weight gain. Does this sound like me? Or am I just CRAZY?? HELP!!

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