unsupportive family members-where do I turn?

Well, I am four and half months post op and down 66lbs (Pre BMI of 43). My mother has not been supportive from the beginning and hence, we do not talk due to her constant negativity and constant making fun of me (I HAD to have the surgery to lose weight, etc). Up until recently, my MO sister (5' 3" and like 350+) had always been supportive and understanding--her all of people should understand how painful it is to be MO, but lately she has been making comments and saying things negative about the surgery. For example, today she said that she knows a guy that lost 70lbs on atkins diet in 7 months and didnt have to have the surgery...and his brother did the same thing.. and she has made comments about my hair falling out and how the hair loss could of been avoided if I would of stuck to atkins instead of making my decision. She has also been pointing out people who have had the surgery and failed (i.e. Roseanne Barr). This has been going on for the past month and she doesnt seem to like to hear anything about my diet, my life, etc. She just seems to make cheap shots anymore... like.. well if you would of did atkins, you wouldnt have to get monthly shots... (mind you, I was on atkins before and lost 50lbs, just to gain 70lbs). My hubby says I should just ignore her, but it is so hard when they are my family and the closest family I have. My mom and I already have no relationship left anymore, and now I feel like I am loosing my sister. Any comments on how to deal, cope or behave in this situation? I have like no idea what to say to her. Thanks.

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