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My mom and my sister have been fairly negative about me wanting to have this surgery. They both feel I haven't tried hard enough and don't think I thinking realistically and rationally about everything (emotions,pain, just everything, etc..) and I have my rose colored glasses on. I have tried telling them about my many attempts to lose weight, my anger and depression about my failures regarding this...my poor self-esteem because I feel like such a failure. I've tried making them understand this surgery is my last hope..last chance to become more healthy. This is the first time in ages that I actually am excited about something regarding me and my body (unbelievable!!!) I want to do this whole thing right so I can feel like a success. So, how do you go about convincing those important people in your life (yes, they are important) that this time will be different and it'll be worth it? It seems to be falling on deaf ears. My sister says everyone is surgery crazy these days...sigh!! My mom doesn't really want to discuss it in much detail/depth because she's a little overloaded with stress/worry about my dad who just had knee surgery because he missed a step on the stairs and tore ALL the tendons in his knee!!! She says she has enough to worry about with him and doesn't want to even think about my surgery because it'll worry her too much. I understand that .....but what do I do now? I don't expect her to glue herself to my side at the hospital or anything just a little understanding and support. Sorry for being so long winded!! At least I do have my husband's support as well as from his side of the family.

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