Anyone Have a Problem With Negative Body Image

I feel like a walking false advertisement. With my clothes on, I get complients a lot. This is a first for me and even though I've had all my plastic surgery done, I still feel unattractive without clothes and uneasy about my body naked. I have tons of stretch marks all over me that show up very well, scars from my ps and still a little skin sag, but not much. I don't want to become addicted to ps, so I'm trying to be let the little sag I have stay there and hope it gradually firms up. I've never had a boyfriend, because I was very shy. I'm not going to blame it on the weight, because many large women get men. I was just painfully shy. I still am, just not as bad and I've been meeting men on the internet and dating a lot. Whenever men talk about going to the next step, I get scared. If they mention something about seeing me in a bikini, taking off my clothes or fantasizing how I look naked, I feel bad because I know they will be disappointed. I feel like I need to warn them or tell them its not what they expect. I'm also self-conscious about my breast implants and wonder if they can tell or if I should tell them about that. I read Idiot's Guide to Being Sexy and it said not to tell your insecurities about your negative body parts, so I try not to do it. I know a lot of people are going to say I sound like I'm 16. I guess its because I am just staring out with the dating scene so late in life (in my 30's). I need any advice anyone is willing to give. Thanks so much!

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