My family is not supportive of my WLS decision

(I am going to apologize up front for the long post/question) My mother says she is supportive of my decision to have surgery. (She is also MO.) She told me that she is glad that I am finally doing something about my weight, and that means she could do something about hers. She told me that she feels like she sabotages her own dieting attempts so she won't be skinnier than me. I wasn't for sure how to feel about that. My dad just says things like "well, if you didn't eat so many sausage biscuits in the morning, you'd be fine" (I RARELY eat breakfast.) But, basically, they are supportive and are willing to pay for what my insurance doesn't. My Grandma, OTOH, told my sister that I didn't realize how big I was and that I was the largest person in the entire family. (I am 5'9", 310 lbs) Now, in my family (mom and dad's sides) are almost ALL overweight people. All of my aunts are LARGE women, and are putting down the surgery and saying things like "Well, I am a big-ol'-girl, and I am doing just fine." or "It's so dangerous, why would you want to do that to yourself. There is no long-term research on it" (One of my aunts just passed away in December, weighing about 500 pounds. She had SO many things wrong with her, all stemming from weight issues.) I guess what I am asking is...what should I do about this? I am debating on not telling them when I have the surgery and just saying that I have changed my lifestyle. Any advice is welcome!

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