Shunned after weightloss?

I've read countless profiles about WLS patients whose marriages have failed, friendships failed, work relations strained, etc..What is it about WLS that contributes to this? Why do people have such strong opinions about a surgery they may never have? No one got all bent out of shape when my Mom had cancer surgery, a hysterectomy or an appendectomy. Why is WLS such a big deal and why do people want to end great relationships because of it? My boss got weird after my surgery and I didn't even tell her about it until the day I gave notice. My 'best' friend has, out of the blue, shut me out of her life completely. I know you're all only hearing one side but when I say shut out I mean, one day she called me and everything seemed fine, by that evening, she wanted nothing to do with me and would not take or return my calls. Nothing happened, I mean nothing--no disagreement, no argument NOTHING. I told her I had a gift for her and that's the last time I spoke to her. She was all for the surgery until the day I had it, then didn't call or visit me in the hospital or for weeks afterward--that was 8 months ago. She told me that the reason she didn't call or visit was because it was "my turn" to call her?!!?!? Any help would be appreciated.

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