Fiance adamantly against, looking for support...

I have a child with my fiance and when she was born I knew that the parenting would be all "on me." I still chose to keep him in the picture. She will soon be 3. I now want to pursue the surgery and he is livid. If I dies he would not parent our daughter. He is against my risking death over something as "temporary" and as "stupid" as a weight issue. He is also obese and doesn't care. Obviously this threatens him. He is demanding about food and restrictive with money. I wish his attitude were different and he were more sensitive. He is just as discriminating as a thinner person might be and he should know better!! Anyway, he forbids me to consider the surgery and especially one so far away. "Messing with your innards is just WRONG!" It is the two of us, no family but my little daughter. I want to PLAY with her, and be there for her and my comments to him that the weight has effects to health now or in the future are dismissed, like he can't even let me finish the sentance. Do I just push ahead on my own, dismissing him, because it is MY body. His argument that it is OUR money (if we need to use it) and that any risk of death is unacceptable is frustrating. Anyone wanna bolster me? :)

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