Am I a b#tch or is this a normal thing to feel?

Bear with me, this is long: I had RNY on 2/10/03, started at 313, now down to 195 and feeling great. I'm very lucky to not have had any major complications from the surgery. My life is much better in so many small and big ways. That said, I have been having some problems dealing with an MO friend of mine who spent the weekend with me. Julie is an RN, extremely intelligent and we have known each other for 10 years. Julie weighs about 400 pounds and has been on every diet known to man (just like the rest of us). We used to diet together but we always fell off the wagon. We had the same conversations for years: :"I'm going to start exercising every day", "Me, too", "But first let's share a pint of Ben & Jerry's" Then I had the surgery. Julie said she would never do it, it's wrong to do it, there are too many risks, etc. What I find really irritating (which didn't used to bother me pre-op) was the moaning of how she hates the way she looks, how she wants to lose weight, how she feels awful and all the excuses for not doing anything. This weekend, I wanted to scream at her: "Get off your ass and do something about it then!" I feel like I'm super-sensitive to this kind of thing these days. I guess I can't understand why someone so morbidly obese would not want to do this. Please help me understand. I don't want to come across as a bitch, or as some lunatic who thinks surgery is the answer to everything for everyone.

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