Who else is struggling after WLS to keep their marriage together?

I didn't know about the statistic. I've read the posting for this question, and it's like everyone is talking about me. It will be 2 years in October since the surgery. I've hit my goal weight and passed it by 20lbs. I'm now trying to keep weight on. That's another story. In the meantime, I'm miserable. I'm trying to deal with the "new" attention, I still see myself as "overweight". I get frustrated shopping because there are too many choices. I still, two years later, overeat and end up throwing up. I like to be in control and i'm not which is driving me crazy and on top of that i'm not sure I want to remain in my marriage. My husband is supportive of my decisions. Always has been, but it seems now that i'm "thin" all of those things I tolerated when I was "fat" are DRIVING ME UP A WALL and he won't address them. He does not help around the house. He does not iron, he does not cook, he washes the dishes half assed so that I have to come back behind him and do them again, he does no grocery shopping and when I do send him to pick items up he comes back with the wrong thing EVERY TIME so that I end returning them and repurchasing the correct items. He will not pick up a broom, he will not push a vacuum cleaner. He will not wipe a counter, wash a wall....I think I can stop here. I work 45 - 50 hours a week at my office and come home to clean in the last hours of the night. That is after I spend 2 1/2 with our son playing, feeding, washing and putting him to bed. You all know where this is going. OK. He has not changed since we married. He is the same person, but i'm not. I'm not the same person. I want to go out. Not just to dinner or to shows, but hiking and bike riding. He won't do it. I've talked, I've cried, I've yelled, I've screamed. It's not working. At this point, even though I love him, I don't like him and I'm afraid that line between those two feelings is crumbling fast. Our son is 3 1/2 years old. I don't want him to be in a household without both parents, but I hate who i've become when i'm around my husband and I know he sees it and senses the strain. We both love him terribly, and it's all about our son everyday. The thing is, i'd like to have a little happiness too, and if my husband is not willing, I don't want to stay. For the record i'm 38 and he's 49. We've been married 5 years tomorrow. We don't sleep in the same room. That was because of his snoring which got worse when he went from 180lbs to 260lbs. He is 5'7". He won't exercise and he DOESN'T want "THIS" surgery. I'm tired of crying. I'm tired of having my stomach in a knot. My blood pressure is high. I am stressed beyond belief. I'm depressed and on Prozac. The thing that hurts the most is that i'm about to become a statistic. I've failed at my marriage, and I failed because I wanted to be happier. It sounds selfish to my ears.

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