Does lossing weight change the type of friends you desire?

I was wondering if anyone else is going thru changes in friends? I have a friend I email regularly. His emails have always been fine. He doesn't know I had surgery. I told him I lost weight by working with a nutritionist. I am glad I did now. He was fine until he saw me in person and noticed my 110 lb weigh lost. He had put on some weight himself. Now I get these rude uncalled for messages when I ask questions or respond to his questions. I know he is jealous. I can lose his friendship if that is the way he is going to be. I have another friend who was my eating out buddy. She is not obese. We don't eat out as often as before and don't enjoy any dessert any longer. She is fine but is clinging on to me. I changed companies and now she wants to work where I do. She even sent the manager an email asking for a job. I don't know if it's me, but I am ready to leave her behind also. What is wrong with me? I have a few other friends who are true friends and I don't want to lose them. Why now at 6 months and 110 lbs less post op do I feel the need to lose some friends. I want friends who can relate and respect me. How can I tell if I have changed--or they have? Have I become a snob? I am still overweight (214 lbs) will I change friends again when I get closer to my goal? I don't want my personality to change. I want the old person just minus the weight. Please help--I am really concerned.

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