Before or after sugery did u feel like the grass maybe greener on the other side?

Hello! I have been reading over this board for some time now, and I haven't read up on much information on how this surgery may change relationships.. I am very concerned how I 'Personally' may feel after surgery, and considerable weight loss, and how my husband will feel about me as well.. To get to the point, I'm quite afraid of the 'New Me'.. How would I act, how would I feel about myself?!? When I was a few years younger and a few pounds lighter, and not to sound stuck up or anything, but I was quite attractive, and I have this constant fear of the unknown.. Once I start to become attractive again, and men start to notice me like they used to I'm so afraid that I will seek the attention of another man other than my husband for the attention, love and affection that my husband hasn't offered like I feel I deserve for the last few years or so.. Don't get me wrong I dearly love my husband, and I wouldn't want to do anything to hurt him or our family, but my needs have just not been met in the emotional department like I would hope it should be. My husband has alot of love to offer me, but just a "I love You" everyday doesn't cut it!! And I'm so scared that once I loose this weight I will also loose control and start searching for the emotional, romantic, love that I desire, and has been lost in my marriage for sometime now. Our lives are so much involved in work and trying to make a living we just don't have much time for kissy, lovey anymore... I have brought this to his attention in the past, and he would change for a week or so, and then it's back to the same O same O... I wish I didn't have these thoughts, but quite frankly I cannot shake these thoughts out of my head, and I'm wondering if theirs anyone out there with these same feelings or experiences? Or any suggestions would help as well... Thank you in advance for your time!

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