I have been married for many years but have a problem that has really

started to surface since my WLS. My husband who is thin watches other women a lot. He acts indifferent to me and to my new body (except in bed) but when a woman who is thin and attractive walks by he acts like a light bulb comes on and he flirts with them. I am insulted by this because I am sitting right beside him! He doesn't say suggestive things or anything but he is overly friendly to them and smiles brighter than he ever smiles at me. He watches their butts. He even does this to my friends who are attractive. He is a wonderful man in all other ways but this is annoying me to no end. We have argued many times about this and I end up feeling foolish. He says I am "just jealous" of him and denies, denies, denies the flirtation. He says I am "crazy". When a couple of people come up to talk to me, he ignores the normal women but just goes "ga/ga" over the attractive ones. It happens when an elderly woman and her daughter, my friend, approach us. He totally ignores the elderly woman. I treat elders with respect and go out of my way to acknowledge their presence. We have a lot of arguments over this. He does the same thing when a young attractive waitress approaches. I told him they are just playing him and want a larger tip! I honestly have felt like slapping him or giving him the elbow in the ribs. I have just sat staring at him while he does this and when he notices my "look" he says "What?" and it is me with the problem! He is totally innocent! I don't know why he doesn't watch my butt when I walk....just others. With the wt loss I thought it would change,but it hasn't. It just annoys me more! Any advice? I will let him read all your responses! Help. If this doesn't stop, I fear I may start flirting too! I am angry with him about this.

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