How do I reassure my wife???

I've been thinking about WLS for several years, started looking into it seriously in the last 6 months. I have a consult with my HMO's gatekeeper next week to see if I qualify for it. Ever since I got the appointment my wife has been totally negative. She's told me I don't qualify, that I will just cheat and "nibble" my way back to my old weight, that I'll be sick and miserable for the rest of my life. She's dragged up every horror story she's ever heard (and she works in a hospital, so she's hears a lot of them!) about WLS and the bad side effects. Says all I need to do is follow her old diet - "no white foods" - and I'll lose all the weight and keep it off. I love her dearly, but she's convinced herself that I will be one of the "lucky" 1% who die from this surgery and is totally against it. Any ideas on how to deal with this aside from divorce?

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