I am post op, is it normal to feel this way about MO friends?

I have a really close friend that I think would benefit greatly from WLS. And I don't know if I should try to encourage her to do the research. I have told her how wonderful I feel emotionally and physically and she has seen the physical transformation. (over 100lbs lost in 7 months!) But when we talk about my surgery she says she will not "take the easy way out." She'll "do it the old fashioned way". It just infuriates me! She doesn't have good relationships with her children and is in in a horrible marriage for 20 plus years. Her husband has cheated on her too many times to count. She says she knows it's because she is overweight. I beleive in my heart that if she had this surgery that her self worth would improve and she would let go of this unhealthy relationship with her husband. I just don't know how to approach her or even if I should. Is it MY place to make this suggestion to her? Or should I just say nothing and continue to be supportive when she calls crying about her family and their relationships? I don't know what to do. Has anyone else felt this way after having surgery? I know that everyone is going to say that this surgery is not a cure all, and will not fix relationships. I just want her to work on her and feel that she is worth more than this. If I were to bluntly suggest she have surgery what should I say?

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