Help! Suggestions on staying focused before surgery. 18 days pre-op

I feel as though I am on an emotional rollercoaster. I think I am more concerned about my pre-op tests than the actual surgery! I am 18 days out and feel a bit panicked, should I be doing something I am not? I have started on Zinc and vitamins... but are they the right ones??? I am second guessing everything it seems. I need this surgery... I have been waiting all of my life... ok... that is an exageration! (somewhat!) The truth being is that it is scheduled for the 26th of April and that is the day my new life begins. I don't think I would handle it very well emotionally if something were to happen. I have experienced so many emotional issues since Jan 1. One family member was diagnosed with Lung Cancer... One family member was diagnoed with Prostate Cancer... I am at the end of my divorce... VERY AMICABLE... thank goodness or I would be a basket case! But after being married for almost 28 yrs... and having 3 grown sons... the separation... although mutually desired, it will still be an issue. Closure and all. I have my surgery 3 hours from where I live and my soon to be ex, will fly out for a new life in Hawaii the 29th. I had hoped to have had my surgery in Jan after seeing the first surgeon :( This would have worked out soooooo much better for work, as that is our 'slow' time.... Now it is like an act of congress to get the time off. BUT.... everything for a reason.... and I do believe in timing! Now if I could just get things settled as to which surgery I am having! A bit difficult to get my mind headed in the right direction. My BC/BS (my primary) denied BPD/DS... but will approve 'other' WLS! OK... all paperwork resubmitted for approval on Open RNY. All of a sudden Aetna (my secondary) has finally routed the paperwork sent in Feb to the right office and now there may be a slim chance of approval from them for the BPD/DS! The only problem being is that I only have Ins through them up to 2 days after my surgery! This will be my ex's last day of employment and he is not continuing his insurance. I have so many questions and cannot ask Ins carriers cause I do not want to raise any red flags until the approval for something is signed and sealed! The only thing that is keeping me sane at this moment is that I should know something no later than Tues afternoon as well as having one a loving soul in my life that is trying to keep me focused on myself... the preparation and holding on to positive thoughts... Help? What should I be doing? packing? buying?

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