Do any of you suffer from a rocky marriage because you can't physically keep house?

I really need to know if this is just all in my head. I had surgery around 6weeks ago and have lost around 40 lbs. I have suffered from depresson for many many years because of childhood abuse. It seems that I am not able, either physically or emotionally, to keep the house clean. I have so many days that are riddled with pain and that I really just don't feel well and I can't seem to make myself get up and do the things that I need to. This has become a very serious issue in my marriage. My husband is always telling me that I never do anything and that he's sick of doing everything. We have two toddlers which I do take care of everyday and they are very rambunctious, to say the least. This makes it very hard to get anything done as well. I hear myself and say, just like my husband says there's always an excuse. Why can't I just do it. Other people are a lot heavier than I am and they manage to clean house. My friends say that he mentally abuses me, but is that really true? I remeber taking care of my mom the last few years of her life, she worked full time and was not able to do anything else. I cooked, I cleaned I took her everywhere. I never resented her because I had to do these things, but I did resent that I couldn't do what I wanted to all the time. So why does he resent me so much, I know, he's tired of doing everything.

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