Am I crazy or is this jealousy?

The other day I saw a friend of mine who I hadn't talked to in about a year who said "you look nice, so I heard you got a new house!" like she was commenting on my outfit, then moving on. Now this friend has always struggled with her weight and the last I heard, she was very slim and I was happy for her. Well, she knew I had surgery and I figured we'd talk a <i>bit</i> about it since so many of our conversations in the past had been about our mutual battle of the bulge. Well, when I saw her, she had put on a bit of weight. Then not even to comment on my loss...it was weird. I couldn't help but to think that jealousy was rearing its ugly head when she didn't even acknowledge the fact that I looked dramatically different. Through this OH website, I'd heard of people whose friends do this, but I had yet to experience it. I told the story to my husband and he asked if I was mad. I said "Not even! I feel almost sorry for her." and he agreed that he sort of felt that way too (about her, I mean). I mean, what if you had a friend who had shared weight struggles with for the past several years, then suddenly she gets this "miracle surgery" (in her eyes) and loses weight and you don't? I guess anyone's bound to get jealous. Or maybe she doesn't agree with the surgery so she didn't even want to talk about it for fear of offending me...I don't know and I didn't ask because she never said anything about my weight and I certainly wasn't going to bring it up, even though it should have been the natural thing we would have spoken about and it was so blaringly obvious. I hope this doesn't sound like I'm out there expecting compliments. They just come, and when they do I am truly thankful. I don't know how to feel about this incident... We're not close enough so that if we never spoke again it would hurt my life, but it would be a shame. Am I just imagining this "jealousy" or am I hitting the nail on the head?

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