I'm going out to lunch with a guy and need advice!

I need advice about this. To make a long story short, I'm meeting a guy whom I've been talking with online and over the phone for about two months now, in person next weekend. We've exchanged pictures, so he knows I'm over weight (I'm almost 4.5 months post-op and minus 99 lb., but still want to lose about 60 more.), and so I think he assumes I have a hearty appetite (which I don't!!). Obviously I've never told him about the surgery. I was waiting to see how things went before I decided to share that part of my life with him. My question is, when we go out to lunch and he's chowing down on something, what am I supposed to eat and how am I supposed to explain why I'm eating only 1/2 cup of food? My sister said to tell him I ate a big breakfast (lol!) and a friend said to tell him I'm nervous and can't eat much, which shouldn't look bad because many women pick at their food anyway to make it look like they don't have hearty appetites. (I almost died laughing when she came up with that one! lol) Anyway, I don't want to lie, because that's not getting things off to a good start. But at the same time, I don't want to blurt out that I've had gastric bypass surgery either, and freak this guy out. The only thing I can think of is to order soup (I can eat a fair amount of soup because it's liquid, I guess.), but what if they don't have soup?? AAAAHHH Someone please help! I don't really have a problem telling him about my surgery, but I need a good, tactful way of telling him without freaking him out or scaring him off. Thanks you guys!!

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