How do I get back into the dating scene?

I'm a 9 month RNY post-op (down 107 lbs). I'm 5'5 at 153 lbs. now. I've been divorced for over 3 years. I haven't dated for over 13 years. I'm a 31 year old single mom. First off, I'm scared to death of dating, but want to date. I meet guys everyday that I would like to date but I get extremely shy around them (I can't even make eye contact with them!). I guess I want to know what I'm supposed to do to let them know I'm interested, I wish I could get over this shyness issue. I'm greatly proud of my weight loss but my mind is still thinking in a 260 lbs. body. I still don't feel that guys think I'm datable yet because of my size... I think I feel that way because of all of the extra skin I have. I still think I look fat because of it. I know I have self esteem issues but what can I do to change all of this? I want to start having fun and living my life! I'm the best I've ever looked now, and at 31 I feel that I'm in the prime of my life. I don't want my shyness and self-esteem issues to dampen my social experiences. There is a guy I'm interested in now that I think may like me also. He's very sociable to me but I clam up around him, even though I really like him. I come across as I'm not interested, I'm sure. What advice can anyone give me? Thanks in advance for any help on this topic!!

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