How can I handle a rude relative?

Ok.... I have a sister in law that for some reason has to slam everyone around her, even if she doesn't realize that she is doing it. I even went so far as to hide the fact that I was having the surgery from her until after it was already done because I didn't want to deal with the comments from her. She has always been a large woman, but has reciently been able to excersize and get alot of the weight off (still pretty chubby). she just would tell me things like, "you moved so far away and you still haven't lost any weight?" just really rude statements like that. Well, to make a long story short, I got the surgery done on November 13, 2001... I started at 242 and I have now lost 42 lbs and still going... I think that is great...just my pace, and perfect for me...well, come to find out, her boss had the same surgery done about 2 weeks after me. Well, here we go again...I JUST CAN'T HAVE ANY KIND OF SELF ESTEEM AROUND HER! She is now comparing the two of us, telling me that her boss has lost 45 lbs in the first month! "well, you must not be doing something that your are supposed to, because you should have lost more by now, don't you think?" I have gotten to the point where I just don't like to see her, talk to her, or even think about her! I don't have to justify my weight loss to her, or anyone else but me and my dr. Do I just figure, look who its coming from, and ignore it...or should I just tell her off? I don't want any family trauma, but really, no one likes her...they just put up with her because of my brother in law and the kids... PLEASE HELP ME WITH ANY ADVISE THAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER... ANY POINT OF VIEW WILL HELP, REALLY!!!!!! THANKS!

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