Can someone help me with the loss of a boyfriend due to having weight loss surgery?

Help...I'm feeling down. Lost boyfriend & rny contributed... I'm having a real tough time right now. After 13 mos. together, my boyfriend has decided to break off our relationship. He insists that this is about him, not me, but I know my surgery has had some effect. He is an obese guy (probably about 100 overweight), but he is wonderful. However, lately he has just been feeling so bad about himself. He says he doesn't deserve me and that in 6 mos. I'll be changed and want someone better. Believe me....I thought about the same thing, but I decided that he was soooo important to me and that the physical didn't matter. I'm having a hard time accepting his decision, and actually have been acting pretty desperate in asking him to change his mind. I just can't help but think that he'll get over feeling bad about himself soon, and why give up a good thing. Any advice on what to do? Should I try to hang in there...or just accept his decision. I'm not regretting my rny, but it's not going to change who I am inside and what I'm looking for in a man. Thanks for allowing me to vent.

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