Can anyone give advice (Read Below)?

I am really scared to tell my mom about my surgery. I didn't tell her that I was researching because I knew she would be negative about it. One of my dad's sisters had her stomach stapled like 30 years ago and almost died. My mom is very old fashioned and she doesn't realize that technology improves and that this is a completely different surgery. I wasn't going to tell any of my family until after it was over. Well I told my sister about it because she came to my house the night I went to the support group meeting and was grilling me about why I was in Tulsa and I didn't know what my husband had told her and I didn't want her to catch me in a lie so I told her. Anyway she told me that I needed to tell my mom at least before I went into surgery. So now I am approved and my date is set and I am scared to tell her. She has never been happy for me no matter what I do. She wasn't happy when I married my husband, wasn't overly happy when I told her I was pg with my son. When I told her I was pg in Aug. she said "OH NO" like it was a bad thing. She's always disappointed in me because I am the "bad" one. I am the one that got a tattoo and my toung pierced. She asked my sister once where she went wrong raising me. My mom is planning a vacation to Hawaii with my other sister for Feb 10th-17th and I don't want her to think she has to cancel her trip since I will be having surgery a fews days before. I know she will be negative about this surgery and try to talk me out of it and will tell my other sister and she is the same way as my mom. I mean she called me when I was in labor with my son and yelled at my husband for letting them induce me because of all the bad things that can happen. I get so tired of people meddling in my life and trying to tell me what is best for me. I just don't want to deal with all this drama when I am going to be stressed out enough. Does anyone have any advice they can give me on what to do? Did anyone else not tell family members until after or right before surgery?

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