What are the positive and negative changes in ur marriage after the surgery?

I don't know where to start. I am hoping to have this surgery soon. Besides the worry of what bad could happen with the surgery and afterwards...I am also worried about what will happen to my marriage. Right now me and my husband are not getting along. I mean, we love each other, but just the pressure of finances, responsibilites...etc..etc...life in general...I am sooo afraid that after I have my surgery...this will be worse. Sometimes I feel like he does not think much of me....he has said on some occasions that..in a round about way...he saved me from myself when we met and that I was lucky that he fell in love with me...to which, I take it as I could not get anyone else. Maybe I am being too sensitive. He puts so much effort into other things that he enjoys doing yet, he rarely plans anything for me and him to do together..to spend time together. The only time, I feel, like he thinks about me is when he wants to be intimate. I am on alot of medications that affects my sex drive and I really could care less whether it happens or not, even though I love my husband and find him attractive. I have always been told if I lost weight, I would be more beautiful and I am not used to the attention that would come with being thin and attractive. So instead of my continuous rambling..I guess my question is....did anyone's sex drive come back and did ur marriages become stronger or fail? We both are Christians and I truly believe in doing everything to make a marriage work. We have 3 beautiful children and it just makes me hurt all over to think of us being a separated family. My world would end if that happened. What can I do to ensure that this does not happen?

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