How do you tell your children you are scheduled for surgery?

My children range from the age of 21,20,19 & 16 we have always been supportive and talk about any and all health & personal issues, my father taught us as children that when you care and love a person you love them unconditionally and this is what my husband and I have taught our children, I never wanted them to know about my health issues because Mom (in a Mom's world) is never suposed to get sick. I havn 't told them that I am scheduled for surgery (November 4 ) I am happy to finally be getting it done and the good Lord knows that I have spent sleepless nights thinking of the what if's of a surgery gone bad, even though the odds of that happening are low I guess I have always protected them from feeling hurt they have family's of their own now and I have 2 grandsons 1 granddaughter, with another on the way. My 16 yr old is still at home and very much a Mamas boy. I have a dinner planed for the 1st of November all the children will be their I plan on telling them then but how do I start, what do I say? They Love me big or small, but I know the first question out of their mouths will be what are the risks? Why didn't you tell us sooner? And are you going to die? Please help me I'm running out of time and don't know how to address these questiions to the people that are the most importaint part in my life, the reason of my life...........

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