Issue with extra skin body image/desirability

I am 2 years post-op and have lost 210 lbs and am about the weight I want to be. I always wear blouses with at least 3/4 length sleeves and capri pants that go below the knees because I'm so embarrassed about how my body looks. I can't afford body contouring or reconstructive plastic surgery and I'm sure insurance won't cover because I don't have any problems with sores or infections. Every part of my body needs "fixing" -- arms, legs, torso, etc. I want to start a relationship but I'm so afraid that when a guy discovers my "secret" extra sags and bags, that will be the end of that relationship. Even though I've gotten noticed fully clothed, I'm so afraid to be seen even short sleeves. Don't get me wrong; I'm very greatful for the weight loss and all the health benefits and I'm working very hard to keep myself healthy. If only my body image would catch up. Anyone else have this experience? Anyone have any advice?

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