Anyone find their spouse didn't want THEM anymore once thin?

Hi all again! Well, all during my pre-op phase I read how many many marriages are affected by the WLS, usually though, it seemed to be a case of the post-oper not wanting their spouse anymore, and NOT the other way around. My husband has been strangely "detached" for the last few months and whenever any of our friends have gone all crazy and commented on how great I look and stuff, he just nods and has to add a "but..." to it!! LIke, "yeah, but she really needs to work out now..." or something along those lines. He always commented (pre-op) how I would get skinny and leave him but I didn't really plan on it, but I can't figure out if he's playing cool in case I really do leave him (not to show his hurt) or what?? Last time I lost a good chunk of weight, things were much different between us (better, I think, esp in the libido dept) so I am really really confused here. Has anyone else found that their DH really didn't want them thin? NOw he's even commenting that he hopes I don't "melt away" to nothing!! (I'm probably 15-20 lbs from real goal wt) This is a guy that is your typical latin, ok? Brazilian.. . land of beautiful tanned thin women (ok, so they have no boobs but great butts. . .I'm kinda lacking in both right now! LOL!) Please help, cuz u know, I really don't have a lot more tolerance for it anymore. I thought it would make this incredible difference in our relationship but not THIS kind of difference... =( Blessings,

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