Marriage Problems

My wife of 10 years had surgery 3 years ago. When we married, we were both in pretty good shape and deeply in love. After two children and the death of my father-in-law, my wife gain weight and was very unhappy. I too had gained 40 lbs from the day we were married. My wife was on this site, night and day, and learned all the in's and out's of surgery. She had the surgery and lost 150lbs and looked great. She began to watch all the Extreme Makeover Show's and wanted plastic surgery more than ever. We had many heated discussion on the cost of such a surgery (Insurance would not cover). We would have to morgage the house leaving nothing for the kids college tuition. She did not care. After a year of non-stop negotiations, I gave in. Now, she tells me that she does not care for me the way she used to. And she doesn't know why. She is thinking of leaving. Is there something we missed in all our research? We had a great marriage and made many plans for the future. This whole thing has come out of the blue. Has anyone else gone through this? We are heading to counseling, but I am afraid she has already made up her mind. Help!

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