First I wanted to say thank you to everyone who answered my question. I really apprec

Now the purpose of this post. I am tired of seeing this problem here. It has been stated before but I feel like it is still a problem. When someone asks a question, I believe the answer should be made in a way and a tone that you would like your question answered. There are too many nasty comments and unneeded responses. Therefore, people are often lead to feel stupid for asking their question and like they no longer want to open up and ask a question on these boards. Thats not the purpose of OH. I personally recently asked a question about ice cream post op and asked nicely for only informative answers aka keep personal and irrelevant answers to yourself please. I still received several rude and demeaning replies...not only under my question but also in my personal inbox. For example, I had one inbox message basically telling me I am too young for WLS and maybe I should try cutting my calories in half or exercising more. Well excuse me most holier than thou but I exercise regularly 3x a week for an hour and a half and I only consume 1200 calories a day. My probably is past weight that I cannot get to come off, genetics, and health issues that are creeping up on me. I also had several answers responding that I should not expect to eat ice cream again and "haven't I ever heard of sugar free." My response is if I am going to decide to have ice cream (EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE) that's MY CHOICE. I am 20 years old and if I live to be 100 it would be unrealistic to say I am not going to eat ice cream for 80 years. Also a lot of sugar free or no sugar added products (not all but most) use some artificial sweetener; I don't like them as they make me sick so I would rather just have a limited amount of the real thing. The point is, I do not mind getting the suggestion of eating sugar free or no sugar added products, but if you are going to suggest that do it in a nice way (most did but a few were rude). Also as I've heard once "keep it cute or put it on mute." Therefore, if you don't have a pleasant response to someone's question your probably better off not responding. This is a huge problem here and I really hope that this post wakes up even one person. We are all here for ONE REASON, to lose weight and become healthier people. Keeping that in mind it doesn't matter the persons age, sex, race, religion, or anything else; we all just need some help at some time. And yes I will admit I have read some questions that boil my blood or sound crazy or simple, but it might not be to that person so I still answer in the nicest way possible and if I can't, I just LEAVE IT ALONE. Sorry for the long post but I felt it needed to be said because it's bad enough when I see it done to others but I will say something especially when done to me! Oh and any negative comments to this, keep that to yourself also. Thanks for reading. Simone

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