Feel inferior to co-worker who also had a RNY

Back in 1995, I had my stomach stapled. I weighed 370. I went to 239, then back up slowly to 308. I had RNY revision 02/01/08. I am down to 248 currently, and thankful, and feeling healthier. But my body is extremely sagging with lots of hanging skin. It was that way before when I got down to 239 after stomach stapling, and it's that way now after RNY. As I continue to lose, it will just get worse. I feel I can not afford financially to have my arms, legs, stomach, butt, boobs done. It's just too much money, and frankly I dread the thought of more surgery, and fear more surgery. My face is sagging, but I am hoping perhaps I can get Restylane or Juvaderm injections, maybe Botox, to firm and lift my face some - that I can afford ok. I know I will look alot better in clothes once I get in a normal weight range, but I will always have to wear long or 3/4 sleeves, capri pants, and so on. A co-worker had RNY about 18 months ago, we are the same age, height, and weight. She has had multiple plastic surgery procedures and now has the body of a young woman. She is tall and thin and has boobs like a celebrity. Her Father left her some money when he passed, and she used the money for the plastic surgery. I don't see her very often, we work different days, but when I did I told her she looked so great. She said thanks! and did not even tell me I was looking good after 60 pounds gone, or offer me even a word of encouragement. I guess I feel envious, or inferior. I can't compete with that. I feel happy for her, and other people who look so incredible afterwards, but envious too. I am wondering if anyone else who is/was extremely saggy after losing their weight feels this way when they see others who just naturally turned out all firm after the weight loss, or had plastic surgery? It would be nice to know others feel this way at times... And please don't tell me exercise will make this excess hanging skin reduce, as it won't. Exercise will burn fat and build muscle but it's not going to shrink up hanging skin. Thanks everyone.

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