My wife feels like a model now. How can I remind her she's still a wife & mother?

My wife is 2 months post-op and I am concerned about her recent behavior. She has been having wild mood swings, is often very irritable, and refuses to keep the house in order while I am at work. I pull 24 hour shifts for the military, and when I come home my house is often trashed to the point of being hazardous. She spends all of her free time browsing this website, reading books, and going to the gym as soon as I get home from work. She doesn't seem to care about our house, and when I mention how bad it is she blows up at me and creates a scene. Has anyone else experienced this with a post-WLS spouse? What reasonable action can I take to make it better? It seems all she is concerned about is her new image and lifestyle, and the rest of us are just supposed to clean up after it. Help! Posted by concerned husband.

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