I'm a little confused by my mother's reactions to recent events

My mother and I are close. I told her I was looking into WLS last winter and she and my stepdad freaked out. She wants me to adopt the "eat less, exercise more" adage. I keep trying to explain to her it doesn't work that way. (Everyone in my family is around were they should be weight wise, none obese) In the last few weeks she keeps bringing it to my attention that I have gained 30lbs in the last year. "You have a gym membership, do you even go?" "I don't believe you didn't eat lunch." "How much do you weigh?" It really irritates me, and I tell her to leave it alone, and she will for a few days. Then she do her surgery rant. "you know it's going to hurt, right?" "You can't stick do a diet now, what about after?" blah blah blah Today I went to a new doctor (my regular doctor left and is going into neurosurgery) and I told her that my back has been really bothering me. She said it was from my weight (really didn't even examine me), told me to lose at least 150 lbs and gave me some drugs. I'm also off work this week. I had to tell mom, which I didn't want to, but I don't like to lie. She freaks out. She told me to suck it up and work because she wants her money. (I pay her monthly for money I borrowed for college.) Kinda hard if I can barely walk. All she wants is her $300 a month and as long as she gets it, she doesn't really care what I do. At least that is what she says. I invited her to go with me to my consulation with the surgern since I want her support, but now I'm not sure. I know my money is tight right now and i know I'll get behind on bills when I have this surgery. But come hell or high water I'll make sure she gets her money every month. Why is she stressing me with my financial status right now?

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