Anybody else scared of how men will react to body?

Hi. I'm divorced, 10 months post op, and down 142lbs. I feel great and though I have not dated yet, I notice guys looking these days, when they did not before. I'm a Christian, so its not like I'm gonna sleep around, but I'm hoping someday to get married again, and when I do, I'm afraid of freaking out my new mate! Its not just the scar, which is about half and inch thick,and I don't scar well, so its darker, but its the saggy skin, and horrible stretch marks(my 4 year old calls them booboos!). I know that I will probably be getting skin removal on the inner thighs, stomach, and arms..(hopefully), but that does not fix my stretch marks, or my outer thighs which are awful (can't afford liposuction.). My breast are in sorry shape, and all and all, though I looked bad before, out of clothes, I don't think I look much better, though in clothes I do. I'm not complaining about the surgery at all...its been such a Godsend and blessing, and I would do it over again in a heartbeat. Its just that I'm so worried about it(I'm actually obsessing)that I'm afraid that if a guy actually did ask me out, I'd just say no so I would never have to worry about it! Has anyone else had this fear? I've seen questions on the scar and did it cause problems, but I didn't see any on the rest of it, the saggy breast, stretch marks, etc. I would appreciate any advice, answers, or just common worries!:) (Sorry so wordy!)

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