My friend had RNY in October '03 and I think she is self-sabotaging.

She has done very well, losing 98 lb in the first 8 mo or so. She still wants to lose 20-30 and ackowledges that if she would take up exercise, she might lose more. She is also trying to get a tummy tuck approved by insurance. What I notice is that she eats literally all day long. (We work together; she sits right behind me.) She starts with half a banana, then progresses to sunflower seeds (about 1/2 an individual sized pack) then eats two packs of those individual sized breadstick crackers and cheese. This is all before 10 AM. Sometimes she starts the peanut M&Ms before lunch too. Lunch is usually leftovers from home, and good stuff from what I can see .. salmon, beef roast or the like. Then in the afternoon, she repeats the snacks from the morning .. the rest of the seeds, another pack of crackers, and peanut M&Ms. I don't see what she has for supper; I assume it's the same as her lunches, but I also don't see if she snacks at night like she does during the day. I added it up on FitDay once .. the woman is getting over 800 cal and 30 g fat *just in her snacks*! Granted, I don't know much about RNY nutritional needs or capacity, since I have a Band. If she had a Band, I'd say she needs a fill. But common sense tells me that she is at risk of regain if she keeps on like this. Does anyone have any advice how to approach her? Knowing her, likely she'll just assume I'm "hating" on her. She used me as a "guinea pig" for surgery, and I can't help but feel kind of responsible for her, even I know I'm not. She's grown. I just hate to see her sabotage her success this way. Advice?

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