Ever feel guilty or embarressed?

I'm a year and a half out from having LAP RNY. I've lost 126lbs. Over the last 18 months I've gotten many compliments, people telling me how great I look, and getting a lot of attention. I love the attention, most of the time. This Christmas we went to my sisters for dinner. She is a widow, her late husbands family has always been like a second family to mine. My daughter calls them aunt and uncle and grandma and grandpa (grandpa just passed away this spring.) For the first time in my life I am thinner than my sister. I've ALWAYS had a weight problem, obese most of my teen and adult years. She was thin during her teen years and most of her young adult life ( We are both in our mid 40s.) Now, she is obese and I am thin. I sometimes feel guilty when the family tells me I look so good. Her sister in law didn't recognize me at first, then made a big gush over me. It does feel good, but is it normal for me to feel bad for my sister? She knows all I went through to get here, and has asked me about it. She's been very supportive, but I do see some kind of "look" in her eyes, or she walks out of the room when the conversation turns to me. I try to move the conversation to something else. I know I can't tell her to do the RNY. I would have been angry if someone had tried to talk me into it. I just say it was the best thing for me. But, should I feel guilty? Am I doing the right thing by diverting the conversation around her? Arrrrgh. All my life I've felt horrible about myself because of my weight, now I feel guilty because I'm thinner. I'd love to hear from anyone else dealing with something like this. Thanks :-)

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