My friend hasn't said anything!

Hey, guys, quick question. I have a friend who has been quietly supportive of my surgery, i.e., she wished me well and said she hoped everything turned out OK, visited me in the hospital and at home. I'm now 5.5 months out and -90 lbs (have 70 lbs to go) and she hasn't said ONE BLESSED THING! Her son and her daughter have complimented me, but not her. I've even tried to elicit something, like saying to her "hey, I thought my husband's girlfriend's eyes were going to bug out when I saw him this weekend because he hasn't seen me since just before the surgery" (true fact). Her response was "oh!" I'm afraid I'm going to lose this friend once I pass into the "normal" category and, hey, maybe even be a little attractive (dare to dream). Has this happened to anyone else and/or does anybody have any insight? I know some people have had rotten in-laws ignore their efforts, or some women have hubbies who continue to criticize them despite losing tons of weight (so I'm keeping it all in perspective). But it bugs me a bit. PS: this friend is 22 years older than me (I'm 41). She has never had a weight problem in her life (was a size 5 for most of her teenage/adult life) nor has anyone in her family. In recent (post-menopause) years, she has put on a bit of weight (she's about a size 14-16 now) but has recently lost 9 lbs over about 2 months on Weight Watchers, which I congratulated her on. Any thoughts?

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