What Can I Do About My Overweight Child's Reaction to my Weight Loss?

I had an RNY in January, and thought I was doing pretty well. But the last few days I've been agonizing over this. My son is 11 and is significantly overweight. I feel so guilty especially as he is afraid of being picked on at the swimming pool this summer--this will sound crazy but I feel like I've "abandoned" him to the fat world now that I am almost thin--and I feel like I should get fat again so he isn't lonely. I don't want him to think I had this surgery because I hate fat people, and I also don't want him to have to have it...right now all he knows is that I had surgery (not what kind) but I will answer him truthfully if he ever asks what I had...but how can I help my poor baby not to end up as a fat adult? It breaks my heart to think he might have to go through all that I have. He's an emotional eater (like I was) and has been through the wringer since his dad and I divorced a few years ago. I try to monitor what he eats, but don't want to exacerbate it by making him even more aware of his weight...How have others handled this? Any advice appreciated.

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