my husband betrayed my trust

i just moved to a new town and i don't know anyone here. my husband is working a new job with people i haven't met yet. i decided on having wls but not telling anyone except my husband, his mother and my mother. i feel this is a very personal choice and nobody else needs to know. my husband promised not to tell anyone. we decided when he had to ask his boss for a couple of days off when i have the wls, that he would just say it is female surgery. well.....like i said i don't know anyone here yet. one of the guys he works with has a wife in the same line of work as i am in and i wanted to call her and get some job info(i have never met her before or her husband). when we were at the end of our conversation she asked me when i wanted to start working. i told her i wasn't sure because i was having surgery. she said"ohh my husband told me about that!" i was floored!! i asked my husband why he told him and he said..well i only told him you were having a tt. and that his wife should think about having it done(but this is not true, i'm only having wls). he also told some other people at work. he said he didn't want to lie to them and that i shouldn't be mad at all. he said i should get over it. the way i feel is he should have only told his boss and then he should have only said it was personal. he promised not to tell anyone and now i feel betrayed. now something i have wanted to keep private has become public. we have been married 11 years and he has been faithful to me. but he ALWAYS tells people my private things that i don't wish anyone to know. he promises not too but always does. he thinks he has done nothing wrong. i am posting this and going to let him read your responses. please help me make him understand.

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