Any suggestions for calming a scared hubby?

Hi all. I need suggestions on helping my husband feel secure. The problem is this: Before I recieved my approval, he was very supportive, even discussed possible ways to pay for wls ourselves. You see, I recieved a "DENIAL" first. It wasn't until that "DENIAL" was REVERSED that he confessed to me that he really thought I would NOT get approved. I'm not upset by his "thinking", he's a wonderful man!! Always telling me how much he loves me, how sexy, hot, beautiful I am!! :o) I just want help with reassuring him that I am NOT going to leave him after the weightloss. That is his biggest fear. He worries too about the surgery itself, but he is more scared about me finding another man!! I try to tell him (jmo) that the marriages that end AFTER wls were not good marriages to begin with. That doesn't work. I've told him how much I love him, how great he is, how I couldn't imagine being w/out him. Nothing seems to comfort him. Any ideas??? Thanks for any and all responses. :o)

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